After Meeting Someone Do You Have To Ask For Their Number, Even If You Don’t Want It?
This past weekend, Ryan met a girl at the bar and they struck up a conversation. After their encounter, Ryan wasn’t really all too interested in pursuing anything with the girl so he said good-bye and went on his way. Now he’s wondering if he was a D-bag by not asking the girl for her number. Not that he would’ve called her, but this way she didn’t feel used. Should a guy always ask for a girl’s number just as a courtesy or does that give a girl a false impression that you were interested. Nicole and Stan think you should always ask for the girl’s number. If you’re not interested then you don’t have to call but not asking makes a girl feel used and foolish if she doesn’t share your feelings. Rich says that asking for the number when you’re not interested is even worse. When you ask for the number it implies that you’re interested and will call, which means the girl will be even more disappointed when you don’t call. By just saying goodbye and letting it go, you’re letting her know you’re not interested and she doesn’t get her hopes up and gives her the option of pursuing other opportunities that she might have been interested in that night. What do you guys think? Is the courtesy number a good idea or just giving a girl false hope? Where is the line of being courteous of someones feelings and leading them on?
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Call me old fashioned but I think it is a little skanky to just make out with some random at a bar. You should redeem yourself a little bit by calling her. Is one date hard to ask? Man up. Don’t be a skank.
If it was just conversation I don’t think he should have asked for her number but if he’s making out with her in a bar then why wouldn’t you ask for her number?? If Ryan wasn’t feeling any chemistry there was no reason to ask her for her number!
If you didn’t feel the need to ask for her number, and she didn’t bother offering it, then move on. I would rather a guy just not ask rather than pretend to be interested. Who has time for games anymore? And there’s always the possibility she didn’t want to give out her number.
Wait I thought its proper to just look for them on Facebook and get their number from there…
If you are just chatting someone up at the bar, how will they feel used? You were just talking. I talk to people all the time with no desire to be with them, I am just a friendly person. No reason to ask for a number unless you are going to call them.
Personally I rather them just not ask if they have no intention to call. If I do like the guy and he took my number I’ll be sitting by the phone waiting for the call…that isn’t coming!!! So if he doesn’t take my number I know he’s not interested and I can just move on. I don’t feel used and I don’t feel lied to…win win!
From a female’s point – been there, had a blast a the club but didn’t offer my#. He on the other hand told me where he worked & before the night was over had given me his business card & was telling which #’s it was easiest to reach him at. We did the phone tag thing a bit – but then it fizzled out – no biggie on my part. No harm, no foul.
there is no reason to get her number! You guys were out to have a fun night and it sounds like you did. So why not leave it at that?
As a girl, i would prefer that a guy that i kissed in the club and he was just out to have fun and nothing more i would appreciate not getting his number , because giving a number or getting mine would be leading me or if he gives me his number and then totally disses me when i do call him that would actually make him a bigger jerk than if he would have just walk away at the club. So i would advise guys who dont want to lead girls on or hurt their feeling to not even bother with the number thing.
If the story is true how Ryan told it. How he was standing there and they were talking then she started making out with him. Does he really think he is the only guy she does that with? Really?? Just be damn thankful you went your separate ways before you ended up with an STI from the skank.
I dont think Ryan should have to ask for her number- if he’s not that into her, he’s just not that into her, as the cliche goes…and that’s cool. The way I see it, you like some people and not others and you shouldn’t have to pretend that you like them if you don’t.
If you’re not going to call don’t ask for a girls number. Especially if you are not interested and they are. Then they just sit around wondering if/when you’re going to call. If you didn’t get her number, no wondering!
If you’re not going to call, don’t ask for the number! If you ask, she assumes you will call, and she will be upset if you don’t!
hey look at the movie hes just not that into you!! look how heartbroken she was when the guys never called even tho they got her number. And you really need to think about stuff more!
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